Lies, Lies And Half Truths. – How To Tell If A Person Is Lying

Liar – One who tells lies For many years I haveand cheeks move, their eyes and forehead push
both studied and taught different aspects of businessdown, nose may wrinkle and eyes may get squished.
and management. One of the areas that I haveA forced or ‘fake’ smile sees only those
always been interested in is ‘body language’.muscles around the mouth move. A quick way to
Body language usually refers to non-verbaljudge this is to look at person’s eyes. Often
communication signaled by the position and postureduration and timing of the emotional gestures and the
of a person’s body. This is thought to be a moreemotion are out of sync. The emotion displayed may
automatic responses, and much less considered thanstay longer than natural and also may stop very
a person’s actual words. The understanding ofsuddenly. This is because people are thinking it
body language is an excellent method of gaining anthrough, not letting it happen. The timing between
advantage. One aspect of the use of body languagethe emotional expression or gesture and the words
is the way a person’s body is positioned whenspoken do not link up. Think of when someone has
the speaker is lying. The ability to distinguish the truthgiven you a present you have not really liked, you
from a lie can make the difference between a goodsay ‘it’s great’ and then remember to
decision and a poor one. The following are somesmile. The verbal content and context A contracted
simple methods widely used to judge how truthful astatement is more likely to be true. A correct, more
person is being about what they are telling you. Itdrawn out statement once again shows though
should, of course, be remembered that these arerather than reaction. I.e. ‘I didn’t do it’
indications only. The use of body language is not anas compared with ‘No I did not do that
exact science but it certainly provides food forthing’ Liars will often try to avoid actually lying.
thought. Reactions and method of interaction.This is done by not making direct statements. The
Someone who is lying will be uncomfortable whenliar may imply an answer rather than denying it
they have to face the person asking them questionscompletely. I.e. Do you really think I would do
or accusing them of a lie. Often this will translate intosomething like that? A liar will often try to reuse the
a person turning their body or head in a differentwords or phrase when denying something. Q. Did you
direction. It is also the case that a person who is lyingtake that money? A. No I did not take that money.
will get very defensive. A person who is telling theIt has also been noted that liars may tend not to use
truth will be more likely to attack or go on thepronouns. Their speech may be in a more
offensive. Liars may try to put physical barriersmonotonous tone than normal. A truthful statement
between them and the accuser. This may translatetends to see emphasis placed on pronouns. People
into the unconscious placing of an object, such as athat are telling lies also often become unusually
piece of furniture, between themselves and theverbose. The liar will often speak much more than
person who they are lying to, or they may crossnormal. Thinking they need to convince you their
their arms. Body language The physical expressionsanswer is truthful. A liar may mumble, or garble their
of a liar may appear to be stiff or limited. It is typicalwords. The liar may speak very softly; the grammar
to see less hand and arm movement. The liar will tryand syntax may seem unnatural. The sentences may
to withdraw into their own space. A liar will often trybe not emphasized or muddled. Other ways to
to avoid eye contact. There of course may be otherdetect a liar One good method for catching out a liar
reasons for this response too and people withis to change the subject of a conversation quickly.
experience in a bi-cultural or multicultural setting mayThe liar will be happy, follow along quickly and may
come across this trait without it being an indication orappear to visibly relax. The liar wants the subject
otherwise of honesty. Another point that is oftenchanged; a truthful person will in these circumstances
referred to in the literature on this topic is theoften appear confused and try to change the
tendency of someone who is lying is put their handssubject back to the previous subject. A liar may try
up near their face. Perhaps they will touch theirto use sarcasm or humor to avoid the subject.
throat or mouth, scratch their ear etc. ContradictoryRemember The above are ‘indicators of lies’
emotional gestures. The expressions or gestures donot ‘proof of lies’. When judging if a person
not match the verbal statement. For example ais lying these behaviors can be compared to their
frown when they are saying something is very nice.normal behaviour. Behaviors out of context are a
The expressions of a liar tend to be more oftengood indicator of untruth. The concept involved in
limited just to mouth movements when emotion isthese indicators are that a liar must think through
being faked, instead of using the whole face. Aactions, they do not come naturally, while an honest
common example of this is with a smile. Aperson just reacts.
‘real’ smile involves the whole face the jaw