Managing the College Application Process Sanely

You remember the feeling. The anxiety. Thechoices will increase the quality of the applications,
pressure. The dread that is the college applicationwhile decreasing the amount of last minute stress."
process. Nowadays, the stresses on high schoolAs the application process hits its peak, here are a
students are even greater, with increasingly largerfew tips for keeping those last minute freak-outs to
numbers of qualified students applying to schools,a minimum.
which means fewer potential spots open for them.1. The Top 5
When you factor in requirements like SAT tests, APAt this point, your child has probably looked at
exams, essays, financial aid, not to mention keepingbrochures, visited campuses, and heard from
up your G.P.A., it can get downright overwhelming. Asadvisors, all telling them where they should go. By
if being is high school wasn't hard enough already!sitting down with them and narrowing their school
Parent of students going through this process tendchoices down to a manageable number of five, they
to get just as caught up in the madness andcan focus on creating the best applications possible
mayhem as their children, if not more, which onlyfor those specific schools. If they finish those five
leads to more stress on everyone. Fortunately, thereapplications and have time for others, that's great. At
are some ways to smooth this potentiallyleast they've done a thorough job on the ones that
obstacle-riddled path to college. And, no, you won'treally matter.
be tested on this.2. Help, Don't Hover
Alicia on "Timetables"There are plenty of ways to assist your child's
"Most of the stress from the college applicationapplication process while not giving the impression like
process stems from deadlines. With everythingyou're micro-managing. Talk with them about all the
seemingly due on the same day, those last few daysdifferent activities they have going on in their life
and hours are usually spent scribbling essays,(schoolwork, extra-curricular activities) and together
collecting recommendations, writing checks, andmake a calendar of when different applications are
running to the post office. It is a classic case ofdue, and how that will fit into the schedule. By
procrastination, one that is easily remedied with somefocusing on the most important responsibilities, and
simple organization. Granted, the eye-rolling teen ineliminating any unnecessary tasks, they'll stay
the house will scoff at the idea of structuredfocused without feeling pressured.
organization, but as deadlines approach, it will all be3. Take a Break
worth it."Sometimes, the best way to relieve stress is to
Sarah on "The Perfect Fit"simply get away from the environment that's causing
"With more than 4,000 colleges and universities toit. When your child's life seems about to be
choose from, the process of finding the right schoolswallowed whole by the applications, take a weekend
for your child is a daunting one. Nobody likes to getoff to do nothing related at all to college. When it's
rejected either, so the tendency is to apply to abeen drummed into their heads that where you go
large a number of schools in order to increase theto college will affect the rest of their lives, going on a
odds of acceptance. While this tactic is certainlycamping trip, or spending the day seeing movies,
understandable, it isn't efficient. With time being asalways helps to get some perspective on the matter
tight as it is, helping your child focus on their topat hand.