| Wise advice of experienced people Making a choice | | | | present would be enough. Conducting negotiations |
| of a would-be college is one of the most important | | | | with parents will help in gaining authority of a |
| cross-roads in every life. It is too serious for a | | | | grown-up person. Listening to advice, not being |
| school-leaver to be left alone with this problem. That | | | | deprived from the right to express one's opinion On |
| is where dear and near are ready and eager to help. | | | | the other hand, parents, though grown-up and |
| Though sometimes their advice may be even | | | | experienced, still remain human beings with their |
| obtrusive, it is worth to at least consider it if not to | | | | weaknesses and lacks. Sometimes they refuse to |
| follow. There are four main reasons to do it: • | | | | admit the fact that their children are grown-up |
| parents' life experience speaks for them; • they | | | | enough to have an opinion of their own. Parents |
| know their child since the day of his/her birth, so | | | | should check themselves if they do not making the |
| they are aware of his/her abilities like nobody else; | | | | following common mistakes while giving their piece of |
| • their child is similar to them and they can help | | | | advice: • if they want their children to realize their |
| him/her to avoid their own mistakes of youth; • | | | | own dreams of youth; • if they are ignoring |
| they love him/her so sincere that wish only | | | | personal wishes and inclinations of the child. It should |
| everything the best to him/her. Though the | | | | be admitted that in these situations the negotiations |
| generation gap still stands it could be very useful to | | | | will do good again. Parents must be able to admit |
| conclude at least temporary armistice. It is amazing | | | | their mistakes when the choice of the college is at |
| that to prevent the eternal "I have told you" in | | | | stake. |
| future one or two productive conversations at | | | | |